Mommy moment...
I see young moms in the stores. They are frazzled and not really engaged with their littles. They are just trying to "survive" the shopping trip. It breaks my heart. How much joy they miss!
Grocery shopping was our big outing. We shopped once a month. (Yes. It can be done) We kept a running list of items we needed. We all added to it when we noticed that we were low on something. The kids were in charge of some meals, so they would also add the items needed for those meals. Those activities became part of our homeschool lessons. The first of the month would come, and our list was ready!
Our younger 3 will tell you I usually warned them, "You are homeschooled kids out during school time. Be a GOOD example." It was a reminder. I expected good behavior, but I did make it fun to be out together.
We all looked forward to our trip to monthly trip. We would leave the house after breakfast. The car ride was half the fun. We listened to stories, sang songs, and visited. They each had “jobs” to do once we were at the store. As tiny ones they sat in the cart, but as they grew their responsibilities and freedom increased. When they were old enough, I'd hand the items from the shelves to them to place in the cart. A bit older than that and you could walk beside the cart and retrieve the needed items from the shelves, and hand them to the little one riding in the cart. Readers could be in charge of “The List.” Truly responsible littles were allowed to push the cart. - Cart pushing was a privilege. You had to be a careful driver AND be strong enough to push it once it was full.
We had fun. Truly, it was a marvelous time. If the weather… and their behavior… allowed I would treat them to a picnic after shopping. Letting them order pizza was a highlight. We didn’t eat out often. Sometimes we drove up the canyon in the mountains and we would find a park along the creek, wade in the water, and eat lunch beside the water.
Littles WANT to please. They WANT to be helpful. Shopping can be a wonderful, bonding and teaching time.
I know you are stressed. I beg you not to add to the stress by being cross and disconnected. Using a bit of creativity and engaging them can make it fun for all of you, and you teach them life skills besides.
Remove some of your burden by being intentional with your time. It really does help.
This world is a mess, and we have messy lives. I know you are tired but God wants to walk with you and help you parent well. He promises to do so. He promises to draw near to you if you draw near to Him. He promises to give you wisdom if you ask. He will help you be creative and intentional.
Mommy, you got this!!
